5 Signs You Need New Friends

I hear ladies talking about how they hate being around other females, or how they rather have guy friends.  One or two things could be going on, 1. You are a bad friend, or 2. You don’t know how to choose good girlfriends.  And there is nothing wrong with having guy friends, I have a few, but it’s something different about having girlfriends.  I also wonder if  deep down you desire to have female friends, but you don’t know how to pick the right ones.

I have definitely experienced having bad friends.  I was friends with some girls who would pick at me constantly and make me the “butt” of all jokes.  I would leave from them feeling bad about myself.  I guess I kept taking the abuse because I wanted to be their  friend.  Also, just like any relationship, sometimes you don’t notice the abuse until you leave.

Here are signs you need new friends:

1.They make you feel bad.

One obvious sign is observing how you feel when you’re with them.   If your friends are making you feel bad, these are not your real friends.  

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  1. They try to influence you to partake in things that you know are wrong.

If your friends are trying to talk you into doing things that you know are wrong, and they try to make you feel “lame” for not participating, those are not your friends. Your friends should push you to be a better person.  They should also work on improving themselves. Remember iron sharpens iron.

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  1. They treat you like the “butt of all jokes”

Do you have  friends who target you when telling jokes, and the jokes seem to go little too far? Do you feel like you’re the only one being picked on in your circle of friends, even in front of others outside of your group?   This type of behavior can stem from them either being jealous of you, or for some reason they want you to feel bad about yourself. ( I don’t know, but I guess it’s not meant for me to understand because I’m not a bad friend.)

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  1. They talk to you about other friends.

If your friends are coming to you to talk bad about another friend behind their back, those are not your friends.  There is a difference between having a legit concern about a friend and you just want to discuss it over with someone else in your close circle. But, the way I see it, if you’re talking trash about a friend who is as close to you as we are, you will do the same thing to me.

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  1. You feel like an outcast.

When you’re around people pretending to be your friend, you can always tell if something isn’t right.  Listen to your gut.  You also feel like everyone knows something and you’re out of the loop.

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I know it’s hard to see if people are really here for you.  For me, it took some time, but eventually I separated myself from that group of females.  Now I have a great group of friends who encourage, support, and love me for who I am.  
Remember, don’t stay around people who make you feel bad about yourself, or people who just make it hard for you to feel comfortable being yourself.  Eventually, you will find people who will appreciate you.

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Develop Better Habits in 30 Days


Practicing good habits is hard to do, but overall it makes you feel better about yourself.  Discipline is key. And good discipline is something we should all practice.  Practicing  better habits will help us become more patient, and it could also help us become better people, workers, and students.

A college student who practices good study habits, and resists the temptation of being out all night on a weekday will more than likely make better grades in school.  On the other hand, a student who does not practice good study habits may end up becoming a “super-senior”, or worse, drop out.

The benefits of practicing good habits are endless, but it will take hard work and dedication to develop new habits.  They say it takes 21 days to develop a habit.  I came up with a list of daily habits that make me feel good on the inside, and I would like to share them with you.


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1. Wake up Early

I’m a morning person so I get up at 6:00 am to start my day.  I also hate the feeling of being rushed, and getting up early gives me time to get through my routine. As soon as I get up, I also have a cup of water.  Just think, you haven’t had anything to drink all night. Wake up, and quench your thirst.

2. Give Thanks

Taking time to acknowledge the things you are grateful for will instantly put you in a good mood. I like to start my day with some positive vibes.  I take some time to say a prayer, and think about what I am grateful for (like being alive, having a roof over my head, and family and friends).

3.Meditate

Our minds are always on 10! We’re constantly thinking about everything we need to do, things that happened yesterday, and just everything all at once.  Meditating daily allows us to be in the here and now.  It takes some time to stay focused, but the more you practice, the better it gets.  I use the Calm app, you can get it here.

 

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Even if it’s just 15 minutes a day, you should find a way to get the blood flowing so you can work up some energy to be productive for the day.   I practice yoga every morning for 15-30 minutes a day. I like to workout with Adrienne and Lesley Fightmaster.

 

5. Have a Healthy Breakfast

A healthy and hearty breakfast is the most important meal of the day. You can try this meal- fruit, yogurt, eggs, and granola. Breakfast is the best.

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6. Get Inspired

You can get inspired by reading inspirational quotes, listening to a book, or reading a few pages from a book you find motivating.  I personally enjoy listening to the Daily Radio Bible while I drive to work.  One of my personal goals is to get through the whole Bible, and this podcast is a way to do that.

 

7. Make a To Do List

Making a to do list is great because it will help you stay focused on what you need to get done.

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8. Read a Book

Reading for about 30 minutes a day is good for self-growth and keeping your mind sharp.

9. Get a Good Night’s Rest

Give your brain and body time to regroup for the next day.  I try to get between 7-8 hours of sleep.  Sometimes getting more than 8 hours of sleep can make you feel very lazy and tired, so be mindful of that.

I hope you found something on this list that you will try to practice for the next 30 days. Be patient and try not to be so hard on yourself.  Remember, habits take time to develop.