Congratulations! You are getting married! All of the days/months/years of ups and downs, and he finally put a ring on it. Now it’s time to plan the wedding. You never know how difficult planning a wedding can be until you’re planning your own. I just got married about a month ago, and I enjoyed the wedding, but I never want to plan another wedding again (HA HA because he’s stuck with me forevaaa!).
As future brides, we get so caught up in the commercialized idea of weddings that we stress about unnecessary things. Today, I am going to share a few tips on how to stay stress free during the planning of your wedding.
1.Get your venue first!
Having your date and venue booked is the most important thing because you need to know where you’re having the wedding. The second most important thing is catering.
2.Hire a wedding planner or coordinator.
This is probably one of the best decisions I made for my wedding (the first was deciding to marry my husband). Now, maybe you’re thinking you can do it on your own, and that’s fine But if you’re like me, and planning parties and decorating is not your thing – get a coordinator. The coordinator handles majority of what needs to get done, and most importantly, on the days leading up to the wedding, they make sure you are stress free.
3.‘Save the dates’ are dumb.
I just don’t understand the purpose they serve.You already have to send invitations. Also, if you could contact all of your guests via online resources, I say go for it! It’s free!
4.Everyone’s time is not your time.
What seems like a priority to you is not a priority to others. I don’t care how much they try to convince you that they want to help and they are here for you, people are going to disappoint you. Your expectations of them is way too high. Remember ,they also have lives, and let’s face it, this wedding is for you and your significant other, and it’s always an inconvenience for other people.
So if people want to help, tell them exactly what to do, and when you need it done. This also leads me to my next point.
5.Layout the roles of your Maid of Honor and Bridesmaids.
You cannot assume that they know what they are supposed to do, and requirements look different for different brides. Your maid of honor and bridesmaids need to be aware of your expectations of them. Clearly communication by giving them a rundown of your timeline, and also check in with them frequently to inform them about how everything is going.
6.Make sure the groomsmen have their measurements. ASAP
I don’t know what it is about guys, but you just need to stay on them. It is a very simple process for them to show up to the store, and get measured, but they wait until the very last minute to do this. You need to give them two dates to have their measurements done, but don’t tell them about the second date until the other one has passed.
7.Do not spend all of your money on the wedding dress.
Yes, this is a very special day, and I know you want to look like a princess, but it’s very unnecessary. When you go shopping for your dress, I hope you reflect on these statements, Am I ever going to wear this dress again? After the wedding is over, I don’t want to be in debt.
Trust me, you can find a cheap and beautiful wedding gown.
(Now if you can afford to splurge on your dress then go right ahead!)
8.Spend money on your pictures.
You should spend some money on your pictures because those are the memories you’re going to hold on to forever. Also, you get what you pay for, so pay for quality.
9.It’s only ONE day!
You spend two years planning, you’re probably in debt right now, and hopefully you are still wanting to marry this person who proposed to you. Then, on the day of your wedding, everything happens so fast. You walk down the aisle, you say your vows, now you’re in the hotel room, and you didn’t even notice the flowers arrangements you spent so much time picking out. And you don’t know if the $3,000 you spent on the food was worth it because you didn’t have time to eat since you were taking pictures with everybody.
The most important thing about this day, is that you and the love of your life are joining together. So just enjoy every moment and don’t worry so much about the small stuff. At the end of the day, you don’t want to ruin any friendships or start relationships on the wrong foot with your new family.